You see, you were cool because you felt (knew) you were cool, regardless of what anyone else thought. There were, at the time, a whole lot of people that thought Deadheads were uncool and a whole lot worse. But that didn't matter, as long as you think you're cool, you are.
And, no matter how cool you are, if you don't believe it, you'll never be. :)

Too slow!!! I'm answering for you...
 

Now I am a slimmed down, active young-middle age white man with a beautiful wife and 2 wonderful children. My head is still kind of chubby & red, but I got the slacker stuff outta my system after a bitching road trip, and now have a very promising career in the car business.

I also am interested in woodworking, and have several other healthy hobbies...I still smoke the occassional doobage (don't tell because by now you have all figured out where I work), but pretty much got my shit togethor.

I've come quite a ways in fact from the little juvenile pudgo I used to be. Life is good indeed. In addition to my full life I've met a wonderful group of people online that seem to enjoy my company and we share a lot of stuff. I like to talk online, but am secretly worried that my wife is going to pull the plug on me and pull some kind of intervention bullshit if I hit 5000.

But you know, it's all good....this is so NOT the life I imagined for myself, yet as I grow older and wiser I realize that I have it pretty good.

I want this, and yearn for that, but in reality I already have everything I'll ever need.

Sincerely,

LJ

no matter how cool you are, if you don't believe it, you'll never be.

I agree with Bruce on this .

I want this, and yearn for that, but in reality I already have everything I'll ever need.

And Blue on this .

read the tag line below

When I was a kid I wanted to be popular.....since that wasnt available I plumped for wierd instead .....I dont think going to school with blue bread and a bright green dip in my lunchbox was necessarily the coolest thing to do but it did get me noticed....

In my late teens and early 20's I had in my head a picture of what cool was.....It usually involved people being so cool they were no longer even aware of their coolness.....it also ( and I remember this quite clearly) involved people having a good time....having a good time in a really cool way.....The other part of that picture is that it never involved me.

When I look back at the stuff I was doing during those years andthe people I was hanging out with ....I think actually I was pretty cool...by my definitions anyway. No money but a bunch of unusual characterful friends living on the edge and getting involved in more trouble than was strictly good for us...sharing a house with people as madferit ( manchester slang) as I was and hitchhiking to Glastonbury rock festival with my fella ...

Of course atthe time i wasnt cool. Not really. I was as I still am a bit of a geek ....but ( and this really is my point) nobody could tell! not from the outside lookin in......If anybody had been watching from outside the group ( where I usually place myself ) I would have appeared to be having a good time in a really cool way.

Whether or not I care if I'm cool fluctuates. I'm going through a period of wanting to be cool right now. It's mostly because I am feeling the need to have a girlfriend, money in the bank, etc. Since I'm currently lacking in those areas, I want to make up for it by being cool.

Of course, wanting to be cool is the least cool thing you can do, so I'm failing at it.

When I'm flush, I don't care what people think. After all, I have money in the bank, a girlfriend, etc. etc. Therefore I'm less needy and stop trying to bring attention to myself - hence cooler.

Some of us never got out of jr. high. :P I'm a therapist's wet dream.

I am cool. I know that I am cool. I also know that I don't give a good goddamn whether anybody else thinks I meet THEIR definition of cool.

(I have an internal locus of cool control)

Wolf is so freaking cool! ;-)

Aint she though? ......I wish I was as cool as Wolf.....:3eye:

Ah, but you are. BE the cool, Grasshopper.

"What's cooler than being cool?"

"ICE COLD!!!"

I thought hot was cooler than cool.

no, that would be "dope"

Whatever happened to phat? Did that stop being cool recently?

no, that faded about 2 years ago......

you might want to re-assess your definition of just how cool you are.

although it is possible to be cool, but not "in"

that's where i'd put you, wolf.

like elspode and bruce

Oh, I am fully aware that I am not "in." "In" and "Cool" often are mutually exclusive terms.

In fact, I have on more than one occasion admitted to being "Old and Unhip" in my interactions with teenagers when requesting their assistance in translating their own speech.