I once went to a funeral with a whole sit-down meal afterwards. It was pot luck style food from the ladies of the church she used to attend before going into the nursing home for the last few years, and definitely included some desserts.

I went to one where they had a buffet after but up home it was usually coffee, soda, cookies, cake, brownies, kind of thing, put on by the church ladies.

There was a sit down meal at the funeral I took Thor to a few years ago (his best friend's dad). I think the food was provided kind of pot-luck style by the church congregation

Probably half the funerals I have been to had either a potluck or reception afterwards and desserts were offered. Don't remember if there was cake at any of them. can't picture it.

But the point of Monster's thread is that there is no themed, central, spectacular cake central to things like there is at birthdays, weddings and christenings. And there isn't. Is there?


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People are happy that those things are happening. I suppose you could have a cake at a funeral if people were glad the person is dead.

but they are usually glad the person lived.

The cake could represent their achievements and interests. Many funerals now seem to be a celebration of the life that was rather than pure misery that it is over, wailing and tearing of hair and clothes....

That would be pizza.