Two words:

Strap on

two words... dave's mom

you guys are not going to guess... most probably wouldn't think of it as sexual anyway... which i part of the reason for my concern in approaching it in those terms to begin with...

You need to learn to communicate with people. Everyone knows how to communicate, of course, but it's a skill that can be improved. But I don't really think the kind of communication you want to make better can be improved on the internet. You just have to practice.

It's been kinda interesting watching you guys go back and forth on this ... (your curiosty to know WHAT he wants to do far outweighs your ability to brainstorm WAYS to get him to be able to do it.)

jmf, as strange as it may seem, why not just try asking?

If this is someone that you've been in a relationship with for some time, have a solid base with, you'll at least generate some discussion, you may end up with the experience you hope for, and may open avenues for a variety of other, well, varieties. ;)

There is still a struggle, incidentally, for women as far as being the sexual initiator in a relationship, particularly if you are dealing with a woman who's a bit older, since the cultural mores changed midstream and you end up fighting between the 'liberated women as sexual being', and the 'nice girl' your mommy trained you to be. This is extra-hard if you grew up catholic, by the way, no matter what the current religious viewpoint or lack there of may be.

No. I'm just not going to share if he won't. What's the point of community if it's all one-way?

dave... you dumbass... how is your off-handed advice on this subject as personally oriented to you as the core of the subject is to me? It would seem that the intensity of your interest in my issue vs. the lack of intensity of my interest in your advice would speak to the difference... if you don't want to offer anything, that's fine with me. I'm not waiting here with baited breath for the advice of someone whose Mom and her horse are available for hire...

And my contention is, what's the point of sharing with someone who is both unwilling to share back and eager to sling pseudo-insults?

I don't care whether or not you care. The last post wasn't directed to you, and your opinion on the matter is irrelevant to me. Do yourself a favor and put me on your ignore list. Do yourself an even bigger favor and forget about this community. Someone who won't give back is useless and a waste of time.

to purport that I am unwilling to give anything, because I am unwilling to give you what is on your mind right now is rather childish... don't you think?

That seems reasonable.

To continue making "your mom" comments is rather childish... don't you think?

absolutely.... it's childish behavior. intentionally childish behavior. that's why it's funny. dumbass... :)

your mom.

~james

And yet, I suppose the notion of me writing my sexual suggestions for humorous effect has entirely escaped your so very obviously nimble mind?

definately not... the difference is that you got pissed off first...

WOOHOO!!!

Yes. Because everyone that knows me knows that fuckwits with fetishes upset me so greatly.