The other children are being rude and naughty, JB.


Rub one out = :jagoff:

r.joe=smart
i.monkey=smart plus funny

Do you need a woman? No.

Are they handy to have around? You bet your bippy they are!

Your arms get tired sooner or later.

Cooking? I do.
Cleaning? I do.
Ironing? I do.

Do I need a woman? Oh yeah! If only to sweep her chimney and get my ashes hauled.

from The Seven Deadly Finns
-Eno
...

So when those French Girls say to you
"Would you like your ashes raked?"
You'll have to take their word for it:
It's the only thing to take...

Whether you need a woman depends on how such a relationship ties into the organizing adventure of your life -- the adventure that you always pursue when you have to make a choice.

If you're a heterosexual and the love adventure or the sex adventure or the marriage adventure is your organizing adventure, you need one.

If your organizing adventure is almost anything else (like making money, pursuing a profession, becoming a celebrity, etc.), you have to figure out for yourself where you rank the adventures of your life that necessarily involve a woman and how -- if at all -- you can fit them together with your more important pursuits.

Nobody can do that work for you or give you any specific advice that's worth bothering with, although a good psychotherapist could guide you through the process, if you need help.

Hi liberalpro, and welcome to the cellar.

I read and understood your answer... but I don't know how helpful something like that is. Very technical.

Welcome, liberalpro. Great first post, and thank you for giving me the name "organising adventure" for a concept I have long known of, but which was nameless until now.

It was generic; however, a thoughtful first post for someone not familiar with the individual's history. The extrapolation method is far less certain for people whose choices are limited by questionable validity.

JBK, look after yourself before you seek to look after someone else. If your life isn't together, throwing another person into the mix is not going to automagickally result in success or healing.

There's some good advice in the movie 28 Days. Get a plant. If, at the end of a year, the plant is still alive, you can get a pet. If at the end of the second year, both the pet and the plant are still alive, you can start thinking about a relationship.

Hiya Liberalpro, :welcome: to the cellar.

yea that makes a-lot of since...

20 dollars says in his next few post that regard me he'll be telling me to take my meds...

To be fair, I think most of us have suggested that to you at some point :p

^^WSS^^