Highly creative and expressive people with intense depth of feeling usually appear inexplicable and somewhat crazy from the perspective of the very mundane.

Is that 'crazy chix sp33k' for 'I'm not a nutter?'

No, just "You're boring and shallow and you don't get me." :flounce off in a huff:

well...i AM very mundane......everyone knows....no use pretending.

I didn't flounce off anywhere and I don't even own a huff. I'm just pointing out that Jim thinking I'm insane, especially based on the meager relationship advice I've given here, is a larger reflection on Jim than on me.

i wasnt basing it on this thread. and i dont REALLY think your crazy. you are a bit of a nutter though. you have to admit

Everything said already seems correct, that she realized it wasn't right after the instinctive yes. Maybe then she decided that if she was going to give you a definite no, life together after that would be awkward, so a complete split is necessary. To go from instinctive yes to absolute no in 24 hours is a little weird.

Maybe she has a terrible secret that she thinks makes her un-marriage-worthy.

Old friend of mine was starting to think about marriage when he went to work a summer job at a hospital. They gave him a job working patient records. They asked him to learn the system, so to try it out, he puts his girlfriend's name in. It turned out that she had given birth a few years earlier at the hospital. It was her terrible secret, she gave the baby up for adoption, never revealed to anybody... including her boyfriend of 2 years. When he confronted her with it, she immediately never wanted to talk to him again, blocked his number, and called the hospital and had him fired.

phew

In any case, the best bet right now is a lot of long walks in the park, listening to deep music on your music player. In four weeks, no sooner, you get to write her a careful email just telling her what you life has been and asking what's been up in her life. No dwelling on feelings or suggestions of getting back together.

Also, in 11 days you are permitted to look lustily at that hottie at work. The one with the sun dress.

(Tiki, sorry if it didn't come through in my post, I was trying to poke fun at LJ, not at you.) :p

I'm in the middle of a complicated divorce, Jim. Who isn't a bit of a nutter when they're under extreme emotional duress?

Nice of you to throw that at me at every possible opportunity, though.

Thanks, hon. :hug:

Why is there not a hug smilie? :(

Find one I'll add it

Maybe?

http://cellar.org/2009/hug.gif

But they aren't the same species as the regular ones

you wanna piece a me?
yeah...well...rub some dirt on your feelings, mary. and if anything, I've been holding back on the crazy chick shots.