Unfortunately, Juni's in a difficult position on that score. She has two kinds of reading to do: course reading, and her own pleasure reading. It may be that he is responding to the entirety. It would be like you getting half an hour a week on your comp playing a game, and also working thirty hours a week on your computer and being told you're anti-social for that half hour game.

Well, does he complain about all reading? Or is he complaining that when there is a moment in the day that he wants to spend with his wife, she picks up a pleasure book instead?

There are millions of husbands that wish their wives would read more... a lot more. :haha:
Strange, you can be sitting 3 ft away, but reading or surfing rather than watching the same TV show she is, and you're distant. But same position and watching the same show is OK.
Hmmm, I wonder if it's because they want to know what you're thinking? If you are reading or surfing they've no idea where you're thoughts are.

Then if you talk during the show you get shushed.


:lol: Best to not know where my thoughts are, so I've been told.

You are so right. He'd have a fit if I told him to turn off the TV, it's antisocial to watch TV when we could be having a conversation.

I'll be reading a book while he's watching TV, and I'm being antisocial.

He doesn't get upset when I'm reading books for school, as long as I roll my eyes and claim that I don't like the book, I just have to read it. :)

But I really didn't intend to bitch about my husband in this thread. It's other people too. Mostly other people. I'm still kind of upset at being called stupid yesterday for reading a book and missing out on all that first-rate rah rah.

Maybe her daughter was doing the rah rah. ;)

We know it wasn't just about your spouse, but it seems that's a common problem for readers.

Yeah, and her rah-rahs came in third while mine was second! Hah-hah! :)

I forgot to mention that this altercation started because I complained about their two really loud air horns.

I wanted to tell Ms. Air Horn that coming in third must really blow. But I didn't. :)

Mrs. dar has a refrigerator magnet that says, "Smart is the new thin."

They're all just jealous. I have pity for non-readers.

This is so spot-on! My ex wanted me to watch TV with him instead of sitting with him and reading. I felt like reading next to him while he was watching TV was a way to be near him even when he was doing something I wasn't interested in, but he didn't see it that way... :neutral:

We set up our den so that you could read, watch tv, surf teh interwebz, snooze or play videogames relatively companionably. Originally, we were going to have the computers upstairs, but I squashed that for exactly these reasons.

As long as were are in the same room, it seems relatively social.

Juni, was there some special reason he wanted your undivided attention at that moment?

My 13 yr old daughter does the same thing. I work on my computer, earning real money, dadgumit, and also play on the computer a couple hours a week. She claims all I ever do is play on the computer. I set aside a special evening just for me and her, but she never has time for me :headshake She's always too busy off playing on HER computer...lol.

Oh and I always have several books nearby. One I carry in my purse, on in my car, one on the porch where I smoke, and often, one by the bed. Not having a book to read is like the car being in the shop...I'm crippled!

Did this reaction start recently? It can't have been a surprise to him that you like to read, and you do it a lot. That says to me that it's not really about the reading.

As far as non-husband people go, fuck 'em. Their opinions need not concern you.

No, it's not a new development. Just one of those things he's had to accommodate over the years. :) I just mentioned it because he's one of the people who have complained. It's not a huge problem, just one of those weird things about people in general that baffle me from time to time.