Any great shake-up of the status quo, hits the children the hardest. Better to repair the rotten parts than tear the house down.

Griff, you were listening to Fresh Air last night, weren't you?

You caught me, :) I was wondering who'd catch that.

no contradictions just paradoxes here.

And the paradoxes bantering about are without a overall fix. But pontification always makes the helpless feel better about their inability to make the changes required to repair the situations which create the paradox.