Yes... ten years ago I would not have agreed with this. Then I got burned.

I think it depends on the depth of the lie. And whether you're lying to others or mostly to yourself.

A wife and kid qualifies to "others" to me.

What Ali said. Jeez Ducks, you were smart to break it off with T when you did.

It is all yours!

Get every body to gather and have a group grope !!!!! ;) ;) ;)

this concept totally escapes me. what's the point in having a wife & a mistress. it's seriously gonna cost him some money. if i was her - i'd kick his ass - and the chick too.

Yeah, if you told her she'd probably write it off as the "jealous ex" making trouble. He really sounds like a charmer, though... :rolleyes:

Do you want the same mouth that's doing all those nasty things to kiss your children?

If the girlfriend then wife wasn’t doing “her duty” (I hate that word, but for lack of better) or satisfying him in the beginning, he shouldn’t have gotten married. That’s ludicrous. If things have changed that drastically since marriage, get a divorce. I just assume that unless your “royalty” you have the choice of whom you marry – so it should be for love, right? It can’t be that he’s staying for the kids – especially since she noted that the kids had seen him with her. I know people tend to grow apart, but I also know a lot of people don’t. If he is so dissatisfied, just leave and end it. Of course, we are only seeing one basic point of view – who knows what the wife is truly like, if she’s a bitch or whatever, again, just end it.

(now Bruce don’t you get “to hateful” when you read & reply (if you do reply), it's just my thoughts)

Oh, that’s what Scope is for.

Funny. You can sometimes observe a "Virgin Mary" obsession in Mexican culture:

The wife is supposed to be pure and chaste, an ideal "Virgin" female; so recreational sex is reserved for dirty whores.

Damn lucky dirty whores.

damn T's the fucking man! does he need any friends? lol seriously though, i wouldn't mention anything if i were you, it sounds like you may end up getting the worst of it.

Jester, I assume that many people that realize that their marriage has changed don't want to divorce because it is very tough on children. If both sides agree on having mistresses or misters (????), then it probably could be for the best of that family and most importantly, the children, assuming the parents would be open with the children if they did find out what was really happening.

That whole "staying for the kids" is always bullshit. They are staying for money, comfort, or both.
Staying in a fucked-up marriage instead of having two separate happy (or, at least one) parents is always worse.
Kids are not stupid, parents are.

Pierce - I understand what you are saying, but I don't believe that this particular situation is amiable. I also agree with rkz - kids do know craps going on - my own parents divorced when I was 5, yes it was hard because my father brought myself & 3 brothers to TN from CA. Even then you could tell something wasn't right - he was never home and to this day I'm not totally sure what the main reason was, but I do know they still don't get along.