I'm happy for you. :)

Are you two planning to sit down and talk about this?

Yep-we are planning to do a lot more talking....all the time. I think that was a major part of it. We don't have a lot of little talks about our relationship and how we are feeling. I don't usually talk about the relationship because I assume it's fine...and I usually don't talk about how I'm feeling because it's so transitory. But maybe those are the ingredients for people to feel connected?

I'm sorry you had to go thru that - for whatever reason maybe he thought you were losing interest in your marriage, and that by asking you for a divorce, he was forcing you into a position to accept or deny it. Or I could totally be off the mark. Either way, I hope things only get better for you.

(note - i was typing this while you were typing yours - i'm just a little slow trying to type what's going on in my head and making it sound right)

Shit, you sound like a man.

Never mind.....I had a long answer for you xoBruce, and one that even included an entertaining little allegory about milk written from 2 different perspectives- but instead I'll just say no- not like a man just someone who likes solutions better than problems.

Better to sound like a man than a goat I guess.....and no I don't hate goats. I love goats. Not too much though. Screw it.:D

lmao at your goat thingy.

Griff, did you see that? She loves goats, but not too much. (I think goats are cute as hell and if I could adopt that one from the Aflac commercial I would.) :)

Glad things are going better for you, Cicero!

"...not like a man just someone who likes solutions better than problems."

Even more like a man with that one. LOL

Cicero, I am so happy to read that things are better and you are gonna talk with him! I had written this long-ass reply to you... Well anyway - goats ARE cute, but the smell - Uggh.

:redface:

Maybe that's my problem in relationships....no room for 2 men.....

Without knowing the details...maybe jester has something there. He might've been just trying to get a reaction from you, intentionally or not. Sometimes people feel the need to shake things up, for whatever reason.

Whoa, that was a compliment. You are practical and pragmatic.

I was served today at work as I was leaving the office.

I was served a summons, a petition for dissolution for marriage, an order setting domestic case schedule with children, a note for motion docket --- courthouse, a motion/declaration for ex parte restraining order for order to show cause and motion for temporary order, an ex parte restraining order/order to show cause, a declaration in support of parenting plan, a (petitioner) financial declaration, a sealed financial source document, and a lovely handwritten note on the top saying that she and the boy were going out of town this weekend so I could move out by saturday night, per the court order.

fuck. guess I spoke too soon.

That must have been tough Deuce. What are you going to do now? I mean seriously, do you have somewhere to stay etc?

Thanks Aliantha. Yes, very tough. I'm still in shock to some extent.

I will be staying at home, despite her scary sounding documents if I have any say in the matter. They are quite scary, I must say. Any restraining order experts in the audience? I'm not one. Yet.

I"m sorry I can't help you with legal advice mate. Do you have a lawyer? Have you spoken to him/her yet? If not, that'd be the first call I'd be making if I were you.

From what I know, if you stay there in violation of a restraining order, even a temporary one, you could end up in the slammer.