It's easy (sorta). Don't supplicate. Don't act needy. Behave with confidence. Act like you don't need any woman, but show some interest :)

FC, here is some serious advice for you.

You could very well meet a nice girl at a club, but I think it will be highly unlikely. If you're just looking for a good time with no strings attached, then go to the club and just ask a few girls to dance. If they say no, they say no. *shrugs* No harm, no foul.

Ugh, FC? Please call me Fresh.
Thanks for all this advice, but since I went home for spring break...we got back together and had a nice quickie in the backseat. :) My update.
I know, like what the freak hahaha.

That's instinctive behavior.

But you gotta remember, she knows that. She knows that, given opportunity, you'll hit it and thus stay involved.

Serious advice: go to some derby bouts, there's a league in Chicago. Lots of cool chicks there.

If you don't have a car, you can probably get a bunch of guys to go and carpool. I mean, take a look at those girls.

More serious advice: If you go, wear some black.

(for when you break up again)Take this advice from an older woman who has many years' experience observing the opposite sex: I can tell you what I find sexy, it's very simple.
A guy doing what he does well with unconscious confidence. A couple of examples?
1 A fat, ornery kind of guy playing rock and roll guitar, so SO DAMN sexy!
2 A couple of my farmer neighbours getting the bales of hay off a field and onto a trailer - like ballet on tractors.
I can't explain it - it's the unconscious confidence.

Congrats Fresh on getting back together with ur girl and ALREADY "making up" I hope you can learn from your past experinces and make this turn a lot better

He learned nothing the little head didn't know already. But since the little head is in charge, it's ok. :rolleyes:

Guess who is running the relationship now? You are in no way an equal partner in this. Do you really want to be the less important person?

Just for the sake of argument, what's wrong with being "the less important person"? Some people (of both genders) don't want to run things every time.

Of course, in the experience of almost everyone I know, hooking up with exes has led to bad things (mostly just endless drama and an even worse breakup the next time). Maybe Fresh will be the same way, maybe not, but it's kind of fucked up to make sweeping judgments based on a haiku-length internet post.

I have been the controller and the controllee in relationships. My relationship with April is truly equal, and it has been the most rewarding and healthy relationship in which I've ever been.

If you allow your partner to be the controlling one, does that make you the contrller or the controllee?

Controllee.

Well there is that.:)

Not at all, it keeps all those tiresome facts from getting the way of a good scenario. ;)