No, you should appear desperate. ;) Women like men who're totally into them in a sexy smooth kinda way.

Jesus H. Christ in a chicken basket!!!!

We men don't know how to do that intentionally. If we come off that way, it's probably by accident, and probably more honest.

OK. Calm down Pangloss....

I know it's about pursuit...to pursue without being to creepy?

That is what freaks most men out; they don't know just what the woman wants in terms of the pursuit. To be honest, I don't think the woman knows either.

Next time, as you take your tray to the trash can that she is most directly between, just walk by and say hello. Turn your head but not your body and don't slow down. Keep smiling after you turn your head back and don't look at the guy unless she does.

Keep your antennae up and pay close attention to her body language.

I'm an insect
 

Holy crap. I've never been given such specific advice.

Thanks.

It's all good and well-taken. God Bless the Cellar for allowing "truth" to flow like a mountain stream yet untainted by fecal coloform bacteria.

At the same time, even local news people have stalker problems.

true, that is why she gave him a biz card so if he starts sending 10 emails a day she can just delete there, and her assistant can be the gatekeeper to unwanted calls. BUT she has given him the opportunity to contact her. that is an open door.

relax. breathe. be yourself. send an email. if you don't get a response, don't send another. if you see her out and about smile, say hi, and keep on going.

get a return receipt on that email - that way if it ends up in a spam folder, you know she didn't get it and if whe reads it and doesn't respond, you know exactly where you stand or don't stand as the case may be.

Some e-mail clients allow you to deny sending a return receipt, I know on the one occasion I've received one I denied it.

True, but that is by far the exception, not the rule. Either way, its worth a try.

I don't know...I hate return receipts. When I get them I think "what, you think I'm going to ignore your email? Are you more important than the 100 other emails I ignore daily?" :p

What I find funny is when someone posts to one of my many listservs and doesn't turn off their return request. Anyone who has opted to get the messages individually as they come out, like me, sends the return receipt so the sender is getting receipts from all over the state, sometimes all over the country. That must be annoying.

If you send her an email with a return receipt request I would indicate in the body of the email something like...

Sorry about the annoying return receipt request - I always use this on the first email I send to someone just to be sure a hyperactive spam filter doesn't intercept it.

Or in your own words. No way I'd send it without acknowledging how dorky it is (given the nature of the email) and that is a "one and done."

Good advice, Beestie.