We are talking about women being raped , rkzenrage . Stop trying to make everything fit in with what you see as pain . Stop being so selfish . Sick people are far too selfish in general .

I know I seem hard . I am not .

Aliantha , have you been raped ?

Has anyone you love been raped , Aliantha ?

Yes and yes Buddug. Many years ago. It changed the course of my life, in some ways for the better if that makes any sense. In other ways it changed things for me for the worse. It's a matter of perspective and some days the positives are more prominent others it's the opposite.

That's not the point of this thread though. This is not a therapy session for me, and I think anyone who wants to has a right to comment including the men. I think that if in some way they have had experiences which help them understand then that's for the good although I feel very sorry that the world has to be this way sometimes.

Yeah, well, shoot me I guess for not wording it correctly...many apologies

Well , you say 'yes' and 'yes' Aliantha . Perhaps in a way you wanted to answer the question no one else asked . I think you are brave and lovely .

I think most of the others that viewed this thread already knew the answer Buddug. I don't think it was brave to be honest.

Why look for comfort amongst all these selfish Americans ?

They are all obsessed with themselves .

I'm not looking for comfort. If I want that, I get it from my family and friends. I also don't think all Americans are selfish, nor do I think any other group of people can all be classed as selfish - cept maybe the French but even they have a few saving graces as individuals.

Don't spend your fine feelings on people who only care about themselves , that is all I am saying , Aliantha .

And tomorrow when you wake up thinking 'oh no , I gave up a part of my soul ' when I typed that , and was I drunk ? And oh I am so sad for it is true after all .

Don't be afraid . The ordinary people will have forgotten , just another message , just another conversation , the mill turns .

Well , I will be strong and true , and I will remember what you said . What you said is a strong little bird that you allowed me to hold in my hand for a moment .

Well, for one thing, I'm not drunk today. lol And there's nothing little about me...or birdlike.

Anyway, thanks for your kinds words. I hope I don't regret thanking you tomorrow.

Go for it , Aliantha !

Jeez , these sheilas .

Good God speak for yourself.. you've been throwing around your holier than thou pompous crap all over the Cellar.