The problem with Pagan dating sites is that everybody on there is a fucking wackjob. OTOH, most guys on Christian dating sites can't get past "You worship more than one God, but none of them is Satan?"

So, RS, are you back on the market, or are you just posting generally helpful info here?

i hadn't heard of that before. what sites are considered reputable around here?

No, I'm not on the market. But thanks for asking, sweetie. I have a number of girlfriends that are at various stages. I've been encouraging Brianna to get out right away.

A local friend (54 yo) had tried to meet guys thru friends or work. But, that yielded nothing. In Nov she started using eHarmony. She dated one guy a few times, another once, but the third one may be a keeper. She's been seing him for over two months. She didn't realize that eHarmony was for Xtians. Since she was a liberal jew, she was marginalized, and found guys that were similarly outcast by eHarmony.

It seems to me that hooking up thru friends is very hard. The online dating services bring people together that woudn't have otherwise found each other. Also, the ideas above on clubs and activities is also very good.

At the risk of derailing a thread....

Hi everyone! I know I've been gone a while. A few weeks ago, it was finally accomplished: my divorce was made official.

So I've been curious about the whole "join a club" thing: how does one find out about these? I tried ye olde trusty Internet, but didn't turn up any results.

The trick is to figure out what KIND of club you want to join first. You're not going to just find a listing of all clubs in your area. If it's a book club you want to join, ask at a bookstore. If it's a sports-related club, ask at a gym or sporting goods store. You have to at least start with an idea of what interests you.

I like reading, but don't think I'd like the whole "analyze the book and tell me what you think" aspect. Just boring for me. I like writing poetry, but much less so reading or hearing it read. Maybe I'll just go, share my own poetry, and leave lol.

As for a bookstore, we had one here once upon a time, but they shut down due to lack of sales (because they were overpriced). What about the local public library?

It's optional but a lot of the activities in university take funding from them. -__-

Their website is here: http://www.lovebyte.org.sg/web/ent_p_home.asp

EDIT: I also just realized how cheesy the website sounds. Yuck...

Well hell yes Bruce - I was there!! :p


OK - sorry I was slow in answering...
I believe Match and Yahoo personals were hit for playing the game with having fake postings...and even having employees go out on dates...(is that lible or slander on my part?? oh well it's public record)...
that's actually why I chose a Christian site - I figured maybe the chance of having a few "real" people interspersed with the wack-jobs was a bit higher. And for me it worked. But we "dated" for quite some time before we met - hell I had email and phone conversations with his kids, his best friends and his Mother before we met... I was taking no chances and either was he. Discretion is the better part of valor in dating.

I've pretty much decided upon a life of celibacy and thankless, back-breaking work. Perhaps I'll join a cloister...

I'm with you. My last experience was sooooooooo AWFUL! BLECH! I don't trust myself to make good choices, anymore. There may be some great guys out there, but I guarantee that I pick out a guy, he's a great loser and that's about it.

Hey Mari, I just know you from this forum, but I think you have a great personality, and after your move and joining activities, you will be in the driver's seat again. You go girl! ....RS

Stop it! You're just trying to make me feel guilty for not meeting you in Pittsburgh for "fun and games". OK, I'll try harder to justify a trip back east. Chicago might be easier to swing. You're the best, darling; can you do Chicago? :love:

I can go anywhere! ;)

Why, thanks, RS. :blush: You're being quite the pep squad for me and Bri, here. I hope you're right. Right now the only whickers I've been waking up to next to my pillow belong to my cat. I wouldn't mind seeing a man's instead! :lol:

I haven't had time to add anything to this thread. Anyway, good luck RS. IMO, you could let friends and relatives know that you are looking. Sometimes they can find people in situations other than obvious 'meat market' ones.

Good luck also, Mari. Judging by your picture, you shouldn't have any problems when you decide to get back into dating.

BTW, remember Levy's Law on Dating - Never have sex with a woman until you have read all of her tatoos.:D