Not fair. We all of us clash from time to time with friends, especially, if they are housemates. There must be a place to vent without hurting them. Why the fuck shouldn't Tiki talk about her here? It doesn't reflect badly on their friendship at all. When I lived with my mum after J and I split, she drove me to distraction. I am a very solitary person and I don't do chit chat unless I am 'socialising'. When it got too much I would rant about her to my best friend. I was being unfair about her in some ways, but not in others. I was likely as frustrating to be around, if not more so. My spouting annoyance about Ma didnt mean I'd changed how I felt about her. It's just offloading.

Tiki: clearly the only way for you to deal with this is, as you said, find a more concrete way of marking out your silent space. A room with a lockable door seems a bloody good idea. Might I also suggest that when she shouts something from another room, you just ignore it. If it truly is important, she'll surely come find you in the office. If it's just more random stuff she's not so likely to make a journey to say it ( I assume?).


[eta} went back and edited this staright after posting. Part of it had been rendered obsolete. I hadn't read the last 2 pages and was unaware that peace had broken out.

:D I do that to my cats sometimes.

My ex talks like that when he's high. When we were first going out, we went to Florida to visit his mom. I had to ask him to please be quiet for a few minutes, that I just needed some silence. He shut up until I told him he could talk again, which was about 5 minutes. Once in a while I still have to tell him he's talking too much. He's a pretty good sport about it though.

Well, it is a thread entitled "Tiki Bitches About..."

Thanks, Dana! I appreciate that. At some point I will be able to finish the upstairs room, in the meantime I have to figure out how to make it more clear that this space is my WORK space and I need to not be disturbed when I'm in here. Because just telling her isn't working... :lol:

This kind of thing can so easily escalate lol. All it takes is handful people to be a little less patient that they normally are, or to reach more readily for offence and we quickly start drawing lines in the sand.

Given that I am apparently mistaken about peace breaking out, I am going to repost the paragraph I deleted:

Please, please, can we all just think about the fucking children just for once?

When I was in the Marines , liveing in a squad bay , think 40 or so guys , every now and then the noise would get to much , i had some flight line head phones , i'd put those on and just ZONE out ,
or if I REALLy got sick of Humanity I would just go away for the week end , it was 10 miles to the beach over the Hills , easy walk , I would just go hide from the MPs that were patrolling for intruders,
the solitude was Verry refreashing ,
exept one morning i was awoken by a Full Marine Amphibious Landing !!! Im talking Ships off shore , helos over head , amphibious landing crafts motering tward the beach , i just grabbed my stuff and faded into the back ground .

oh did I mention this was a Military training area ??

FOR ZIPPYT:
I hope you had on the right uniform! LOL

this thread= that scene in White Men Can't Jump where Rosie tells Woodie that she is thirsty, and then breaks his balls for getting her a glass of water.

:thepain: this is why sex ed needs to be taught in our schools.

Or teach em all to be whiny bitches. Then their odds of having sex at all are fairly narrowed.

Don't bother. I've read enough of your anti-social, selfish shit. Save yourself a few keystrokes. I'm not reading your dribble anymore anyway.

drivel

Salivation?

dribble: salivation

drivel: words to be disdained